where is the Titus 2 woman?

I am always concerned when I hear parenting advice that doesn't measure up to Titus 2; will it make me love my husband and children? does it make me want to be chaste, sober, a keeper at home, obedient to my husband?
Do you ever feel alone? Like you are the only one?
A year into homeschooling, we moved to a new community and a few years after that, my husband chose a church home for us. Our church has many wonderful qualities, and its primary ministry is Christian education. This is done through a PreK to 8th grade day school.
In an environment where my brothers and sisters in Christ often behave as though homeschooling is a personal affront to 'their school' being the only homeschooling family can feel quite lonely.
Sometime ago, I began to read Titus 2 and wonder, "Where are those women?" The older women he speaks of who are supposed to teach me to be obedient to my husband, a keeper of my home, loving to my children? Where are they? I began to search for them.
Through many conversations with many women in and out of my church, I found two very interesting things that they all had in common. First, most of the women in my church, in my generation, with or without children, single or married, have jobs. By 'job' I am referring to an obligatory location that one shows up, punches a timeclock, does work and gets a paycheck. I would be lying if I said I don't work, but I don't have a job. Learning this, made me feel even more desperate to find Titus 2 women. How could I learn to be a keeper at home if I didn't even know anyone who is?
The second thing I found is that the women I talked with love God, they love their husbands, and they love their children. They want to be Proverbs 31 women, Titus 2 women, they want to obey God in their lives...but (there is always a but...) they feel they need to work, or they need the money, or they need their job for some reason or another. I don't argue these points when I'm talking to them and I won't argue them here either. I think it is simple; we either take God at His word or we don't. It seems quite obvious to me what God intended for a woman.
Read Genesis where He creates a 'helpmeet' for Adam. Look up that word, what does it mean? Do you fit the definition? Read Titus 2; does that describe you? Read Proverbs 31, does your description fit here? More importantly, are you trying to fit these qualities designated by God, or are you busy meeting another set of standards?
The Bible doesn't say that women are not to work, or that they should not earn any money, but what is your priority? Does God come first, above all else? How much of your time, talents and money do you devote to Him? Does your husband come second? How much do you devote to him? Do your children come next? How much time do you devote to them?
Where you place your time, talents and finances will give you a very realistic picture of what your priorities really are. Measure it out - time asleep doesn't count for anyone. Who gets most of your time?
It's not too late to put your priorities into perspective, and make changes. If you have children, now is the time to give them a Godly example. I can't promise that it won't be a lonely walk, but I can promise that it will have lasting rewards. For your daughters, give them the gift of a Titus 2 woman in their lives, so they will not have to wonder where to turn when they are in need of one. For your sons, give them the gift of a Titus 2 woman in their lives; they will one day be married, and their wife may have never known any.

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